This happens to thousands of people every week. You're not in trouble, you're not alone, and this is fixable. We'll walk you through it.
A friend just told you? → | Ready to tell a friend? → | Post before they do →That took real courage. Here's how to help them right now:
1. Say this: "This is not your fault. You're not in trouble. I'm going to help you figure this out."
2. Don't say: "Why did you send that?" or "That was dumb." They already know. The shame is what keeps them trapped.
3. Go through this site together. Use the action plan tool above. Help them screenshot evidence and report on the platform. Being the calm person next to them makes a massive difference.
4. Help them tell an adult when they're ready. Don't force it, but gently push. A parent, older sibling, or school counselor can take actions you can't. If they can't say it, offer to be there when they do — or to say it for them.
5. Check in tomorrow. And the day after. The crisis fades fast but the shame sticks. A simple "hey, you good?" text means more than you think.
You don't have to find the words. Pick whichever feels right — tap to copy, paste into your messages.
Whoever you send this to — they're not going to think less of you. 1 in 5 teens has dealt with this. You're telling them because you trust them. That's strength, not weakness.
You can write to us. We're not a crisis hotline and we can't investigate your case — but we're a real person who's read every message, won't judge you, and will point you to the right next step. No personal info required. Just tell us what's happening.
✉ help@sextortionrescue.orgAnswer a few questions. We'll build you a personalized action plan.
Here's what the data actually shows.
A lot of the fear right now comes from someone seeing you. Let's take that power away — with actual data.
If you're between 14 and 17, your body is literally still developing. That's not a flaw — that's biology. The chart below shows the medical data: growth doesn't finish until your late teens or early twenties, and the normal range at any age is huge.
But here's the bigger point: even if you were fully grown, there would be nothing to be ashamed of. Every body is different. The scammer isn't threatening you because something is wrong with you — they're threatening you because shame is how they make money. The moment you stop feeling ashamed, they lose all their power.
The shaded area is the normal range. At age 14, that runs from about 2.9" to 5.1" — a massive spread, all completely normal. If you're at the lower end, it just means you started puberty later. You'll likely catch up by 17 or 18. The images they have are just a body. Your body. There is nothing weird about it, and nothing that anyone who actually matters in your life would judge you for.
Sources: Veale et al. 2015 (BJU International, n=15,521); Tomova et al. 2010; Chongqing growth study (PMC6219296); Soydan et al. 2022. Individual variation is significant — puberty timing alone can shift development by 2+ years.
Straight answers to the questions everyone in this situation asks — usually at 2am.
For you, your friend, your parents — whoever needs it.
Not ready to tell an adult? Start with a friend. Word-for-word scripts for what to say (and what to text if you can't say it).
Read scripts →When you're ready. Scripts for saying it out loud, texting it, or having your friend help you say it.
Read scripts →Teachers, counselors, partners, therapists, employers. Word-for-word for every person in your life.
Read scripts →Your kid just told you. What to say, what NOT to say, and the exact steps to take right now.
Read guide →Tap any myth to see the truth.
Step-by-step. Select your platform.
Fill in what you can. We'll generate a structured summary you can copy into NCMEC, FBI IC3, a police report, or just hand to a parent.
Crisis support and image removal first. Reporting when you're ready. All free.
Post before they do.
If your followers already know, the scammer has nothing. Posting first flips the power. Copy, paste, post — the threat becomes meaningless.
You don't have to post anything if you're not ready. But if you do — it's the single most powerful thing you can do. It kills the threat, warns your friends, and shows that you're not ashamed. Because you have nothing to be ashamed of.
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